Checking your phone when someone pulls out their phone is the yawn of this generation. A good friend posted this on Facebook recently, and I realized how true it was. Even when on a date these days, it is common to check your phone. Among friends, sitting at lunch we are all on our phones: texting, snap chatting, on Grindr, Facebook, Instagram... the list goes on. Balancing real life, and the digital life is always a challenge, but doable. Recently, in the Post I read that more than 60% of people use their phones when taking a poop. It has become the all American pastime: social media. Dating is difficult and cell phones have made dating even more difficult. With the ability to mobile cyber stalk, texting at rapid speeds, and social media updates, how can someone actually take a break from technology and just enjoy real life?
TEXTING: When among friends, it is okay to text, or be on your phone until you order your food. If taking a call, it is always best to step away from the table, always step away when it is business. Never text on a date. In fact, don’t even check your phone on a date, you will look uninterested, and it is a huge turn off. When texting a coworker or colleague never use abbreviations.
ON THE PHONE: Never talk on a cell phone in public about your personal or professional problems, finances or health issues. Because cell phones aren’t always the most reliable if you are disconnected, make sure you call them back right away, if possible. If you are on the phone in public, try to keep your voice slightly lower than the room.
Tips to reconnect with the real world
If you are missing your friends in real life, next time you are out with your friends for dinner play a game. Put your cell phones in the middle of the table, or in the breadbasket. The game is simple, whoever picks up their phone first loses and pays the bill. If no one reaches their phone, then offer to buy everyone dessert. You suggested the game, so you have to be able to give the reward.
Don’t tweet or IG at events, unless it is in your job description. There is nothing worse than a glowing screen in front of you at the opera or the ballet.
To disconnect from the world, I have started to sleep with my cellphone in another room. If it is a real emergency, the people who know me well know my home phone number.
It seems that everyone lives on their phones, and that they would prefer to date their phone rather than a real person. It makes me wonder how any of us would survive without social media. When was the last time you went an entire day without your cell phone?
I find it very annoying when on a date, when the guy I am dating is constantly on his phone. I work just as much as he does, and we both live on our phones for work, but it would just be nice if for a couple of hours a week I didn't have to share him with the world.