Real Life: Have you ever saw someone at the Starbucks, the grocery store, or at Saks and you think, “He is so attractive, he is so sexy, I should give him my number.” And then, you might stalk him a little bit, and then you chicken out and you think: What if? Well, stop with the what ifs, and go for it. Even if you walk by them and smile and say, “Hey, how’s your day going?” At least it opens up a direct line of communication. Introduce yourself and then you can move into, “You are really attractive. Would you like to (insert activity here).” Don’t say hook up, this is dating not cruising. This could immediately lead to coffee, or the exchange of numbers and meeting up on the weekend for a drink.
At the bar/club etc: Here is a rule of thumb before approaching a guy when you are out and about. Double check that he is not with someone, romantically. Make sure he isn’t out with a large group of friends. Don’t ever pull someone away from their friends, right there you are excluding yourself, and you look socially awkward. There are plenty of ways to go out, and meet men. If you are offering to buy someone a drink, make sure they go with you to the bar, so they don’t think you are drugging them. This is a perfect way to introduce yourself, or maybe even casually talk about their night. Never order for someone, because that is just rude and assuming.
Usually, if you see a guy smoking and you think he is attractive, you can always ask him for a light, even if you have a lighter in your jacket pocket. There are many ways to be charming at the bar or club, even on the dance floor. Then at some point in the conversation, you say you would like to grab lunch or something and then you can ask for his number, or ask to trade phone numbers. Make sure you ask for his number after suggesting a date. (Don't get your hopes up that he calls you if he is drunk off his ass, or if even remembers you.)
Internet/Smartphone: With all the apps out there, websites and more, it seems impossible to find a guy a real life. Or more importantly, on-line dating is like speed dating. In a matter of seconds you can filter by race, height, weight and style. By swiping a screen you can move onto the next available guy. This isn’t really the best way for dating, but there are the occasions you find someone really attractive, and you start to talk on-line for what could be months and then you finally decide that you would really like to meet them in person. This could be a good thing, but it could also be a bad thing. You could easily fall for someone’s words, but chemistry in real life is so important. Make sure you aren’t being catfished by exchanging numbers, or facebook usernames or even instagram names. Always try to meet in a public place, because you really don’t know this person’s habits.