Nathan happened to find someone great. He is attractive, like body karate, funny, charming, emotional, everything that Nathan had ever wanted. Except, this guy was in North Carolina, a military man and not out. All things to consider, but Nathan didn’t have a problem with any of those things. The point is, he is everything that Nathan wanted.
So, you would think that the story would end with a happily ever after, but unfortunately like most people in general, Nathan decided to take the easy way out, and find and date a man out of convenience. So, how do you go from everything you ever wanted, to dating a guy who isn’t really that interested in you, but lives around the corner?
One night NC, lets call him that, pretty much put everything out there emotionally, and Nathan failed to see that NC was reaching out and confessing his love. So, instead, Nathan dropped NC. Idiot, right? When a man is crying on the phone, literally trying to say I love you, but you can’t see that, and you take it as, “He’s emotionally unavailable.” You are always bound to make a mistake. This is when Nathan’s obsession with finding Mr. Right decided to find someone easier, Mr. Convenient.
I know what you all are thinking: Long distance never works.
I agree. But, Nathan is willing to move, not just for a guy, but for love, a fresh start, and a new life, that he really does need. We will be addressing long distance at a later point in time. Back to the main story:
The man out of convenience was attractive, but really that was it, and by location a lot closer. One date in, Nathan was already getting cold feet, and getting the signs that Mr. Convenience might just be into him for superficial qualities. And after this first date, three days later, NC calls confessing his love, and everything else in between to Nathan. And, this is how we found ourselves sitting around my table over Malbec and creamy Swiss cheese listening to Nathan go on and on about the predicament he was in. Now, from the outside you would think that this was beyond easy. Unfortunately, it took a lot of discussion and wine.
How are willing to risk everything we have ever wanted, every idea we have about love, and throw away a great man, for the sake of convenience?
On the same note, Miguel, another really great friend found himself in another situation of convenience. You would think that these situations would be a lot easier to navigate through, but it seems we all get caught up in looks, location, where we are at in life, our careers, our families, the list goes on. All things that make decisions harder, or more complicated.
Miguel had started talking with a man, and well it was going great. He even deleted his Grindr. But, Miguel found it inconvenient to have to text, so instead of investing more into this possible relationship, he cut him out. Ironically, it wasn’t really a match to begin with, I mean two bottoms don’t make a top. But, the fact is, it could have been something if it wasn’t so inconvenient for him. It’s silly, it’s petty, a text takes less than five seconds-
Here I am lecturing about convenience, I just realized I was supposed to call the guy that I am dating. See, life gets in the way, friends always come first, and it turned into a blog. Hah, I know, who would have thought I would be making the same mistakes? We are all human, right?
So lesson learned: Take the hard road ahead of you, don’t fall back to what is easy, convenient, and comfortable. Put yourself out there, and maybe you risk everything, and get everything you have ever wanted.