The Rules of Engagement... Part two...
So, your best friend in the entire universe is getting married. Simply put, whether it your GBF, BFF, or your family member... Gay or straight... There are five simple rules to engagement gifts. Firstly, the only reason you should be purchasing an engagement gift is if the couple has announced their engagement, formally, on paper... And it is followed with the statement of a formal engagement party. It is that time of year for couples, both gay and straight, to be getting engaged. So, secondly the rule for engagement gifts is the rule of a housewarming gift... Don't spend more than $50 and even that is pushing it. Here are 5 great gift ideas... Via
1.Cocktail Mixing Set... You can pick up great "bar tending" sets up for $25 at TJ Max #maxanista
2. Napkins of Linens... Not bedding... Too personal and too intimate. I love giving towels, especially if they are embroidered...I am always losing hand towels, and guest towels.
3. Glassware- champagne glasses, wine glasses, but the set should only be two- not four. House warming parties the sets would be 4-8.
4. Flowers- the easiest... Go pick up a bouquet and call it a day
5. Art- for those of you who are crafters, printing out a great photo of you all together in a nice frame works.
Engagement parties these days are kind of tricky because they are so rare. An engagement party should technically just be both families involved, and those who are being asked to be a part of the wedding party and revolving around a meal/dinner versus an actually party... for those who are casual, sometimes a BBQ happens.
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As we all know, I love Gin. And recently I have been going back and forth between Tanqueray Ten and Nolet. Though recently I was gifted City of London Square Mile Gin, and since then- I have grown rather fond of it. It is consider their Number 5, and it is really smooth. Juniper with coriander, orris root, angelica, licorice and fresh orange and lemon give it a lovely smooth quality. I have just been having it with soda water and lime. Click here to order your own!
It's Friday Night, and it's time to go out. You and your friends pick a posh bar, and you are all feeling flirty. If you aren't a hardcore liquor drinker, there are plenty of options when it comes to fruity drinks. You are going to have to go to a mixology bar or high-end bar.
1. The Cosmopolitan- or a variation on a Cosmo. It's pink, it's fun, it's a staple.
2. Kiwi and Mint Tom Collins- self-explanatory
3. Strawberry and Pomegranate Mojito. (mojito with fresh strawberries, and pom liquor)
4. Blackberry Vodka Sangria (Sangria, simple syrup, blackberries, and vodka)
5. Watermelon Cooler (basically watermelon, tequila, simple syrup, mint, lime and sometimes blueberries)
6. Strawberry-Coconut Daiquiri
7. Chambord and Champagne
8. Rob Roy with black cherries. If you don't know what a Rob Roy is it is scotch, sweet vermouth, bitters, and black cherries soaked in bourbon and garnished with an orange peel. Not super sweet, but good enough
9. Anything with passion fruit juice or guava.
Or simply ask your bartender to make you a great fruity drink with fruit of your choice and your favorite liquor.
First there was sushi, and then there was hibachi, and then there was Indian food, gastropubs and mixology bars. Now, the new hottest place to go on a first date is Korean BBQ. Yup, pretty much. Every Korean BBQ house is jammed packed, and full and it seems there is one on every corner now. Here are some of the pros and cons to going to Korean BBQ on a first date. And, for those of you in committed relationships, it's a great new experience to add to your go-to date places.
You get all you can eat meat. So for those gym bros who are bulking or meat lovers, this is a great place to go.
It is semi healthy.
They usually are quite intimate, as you cook the food yourself, the experience is intimate. If you haven't ever done it before, it is a great experience for the two of you to share.
Unfortunately, Korean food is loaded with garlic, so make sure you bring mints or gum for after.
Kimchi comes out of your pores when sweating, so if you plan on having sex that night, fair warning- garlic smells might appear.
It can be very casual or very dressed up depending on the restaurant; most of the places I go to are fairly on the upscale side.
Don't know what to order?
Galbi or Kalbi is Korean short rib. Cook it till the marinade carmelizes.
Bulgogi is korean beef, you just throw it on in a pile and let it cook in the juices.
Kimchi _anything_ is fermented veggies.
Chadol is beef brisket that cooks very fast.
Chop Chae is Korean glass noodles served either warm or cold with veggies.
There are tons of other great options including seafood.
New to the gay scene? Tired of your current gay scene? Going to the same bars over and over again, and seeing the same people makes you wonder, "How am I supposed to get laid?" Don't worry about it. Sure, going out is fun, especially if you have a great group of friends, but now and then you get the itch. This need or craving isn't something new or groundbreaking, but it seems that nowadays, meeting a guy at a bar is rather complicated. You have to have the unoriginal small-talk, or you are paying for someone's drinks. The list goes on. After carefully observing my friends, and myself, and just every guy at a bar... Here are some successful ways of cruising a bar.
Lost Puppy: slowly wander around the bar, pretending to look for your friends, truthfully nine times out of 10, you are actually looking for them. And someone might come up to you and say hello. This works for one of my friends in particular. Don't get me wrong, he's pretty to look at with a bangin' body, but it works for him. He always happens to meet a guy when doing a "lap" around the bar.
James Dean Cool: then there is the too cool for school approach. You play the calm, cool, confident card. Lay back, enjoy your night, and scope out the place. When you make eye contact with a guy you like, then smile and stare for a few seconds. Don't be creepy about it. Then stand up, walk over to him and ask if you could buy him a drink. If he has a drink in his hand, then compliment him on either his shoes, hair, watch or blazer. Don't straight out tell him he's hot, because that just means you were looking at his face, body or dick. Play the cool card, and keep the conversation light.
School Boy Shy: a lot of people are nervous when it comes to talking to guys, so they are generally shy or stand-offish. Don't mistake this for bitchiness *cough "weho boys" cough* Just kidding. There is nothing wrong with being shy or reserved, in fact, as long as you don't isolate yourself off at a bar, this works too. Sometimes, being the shy, quiet one in the group helps. It makes you more approachable. For one of our friends, this works great, especially because we are all loud and obnoxious when drinking. Usually, we find a group of guys to talk to, and mingle with, and one of them always steps aside with him to talk about more serious matters. It works.
So these are just three things that work in our circle of friends. Last night we put it to the test, and for all of us, each of us met a guy.
So after all of the dating I have done... Here is what I know what to avoid...
1. If a guy has more than 4 selfies in the first four photos of his IG page... move on. This usually means that they are kind of douchy, are insecure about themselves and masking with over confidence, and that they are generally needy when it comes to attention. If you like codependent relationships, then this works for you.
2. If a guy buys out a restaurant for you two on the first date, don't be that impressed... It usually means they are hiding something. Yes, they are flexing their power, and their money, but who really needs that in their life? Unless you are looking for a sugar daddy.
3. If a guy is constantly on his phone while with you, that is another sign to move on. He doesn't make the time you spend a priority, therefore in the long run you probably won't be a priority.
4. If you met a great guy on GRINDR, he probably is a great guy. If he tries to sleep with you on the first date... It probably means he has done this before, and don't take the line, "I've never done this." Please. Bye Girl Bye. Next.
5. If you meet a guy at a bar, and he uses are corny pick up line, give him a chance. If he doesn't make eye contact with you there at the bar, move on. If he leans in towards you at the bar, he probably wants sex... move on.
6. If a guy constantly starts fights with you, but you have really good make up sex... Stay with him, until the sex gets old, then move on. That bull shit i can tolerate. And the reality is, every guy is drama.
7. Avoid dating men who look like their friends... It's weird, and most likely the friends will be attracted to you and hit on you at some point. Awkward.
8. If you are a smart guy, avoid dating dumb ones.
9. Try to be equally matched in one or all of the following areas: education, ethics, financials, or lifestyle.
10. If you meet a guy at the gym, and he takes you out for sushi after, it means he wants you to eat a light meal so you can bottom for him after.
Things to avoid talking about on the first date...
1. Your ex. or your dating life.
2. Your sex life.
3. Politics & Religion.
4. Your family.
5. Your Personal Life- you can talk about yourself without giving out where you work, the names of your family members, or even places that you frequent.